Before I get into my vent, I should probably give you a little background. I have a friend who I will call Scott. I have known him since 2009 or 2010. We tried dating very briefly, but realized that it wasn't a good idea. Let me keep it short...Scott was/is a liar. He tried to date me and someone I used to hang out at work with at the same time and I suspected it, so I asked him about it, but he wouldn't ever confirm it. I found out 1 day when Lala- the girl I thought he was dating told me a year or 2 ago. The funny thing is, she never knew he tried to date me. We put the pieces together and realized what a dog Scott was. Scott finally admitted to it once I told him that Lala and I talked. The situation upset me because he knew that Lala and I were building a friendship, so he knew that we knew each other. (Her and I have a few mutual friends). I wish I had known Lala better and had been able to ask her about it while the situation was occurring because it was pretty irrelevant now
Now although Scott is a liar, I still was his friend because I decided that I would never date him again after that and the chemistry wasn't so over powering that I couldn't be his friend. Him and I talk about everything and after I talked to Lala, I told him what we talked about and he still denied it. I tried to explain to him that I would still be his friend and that I it would mean a lot if he would just admit it. (It's hard to be real friends with a liar). He finally admitted and I explained to him this is why we can't ever date. (He always made it clear that he still liked me). It's hard to deal with a liar without turning into a crazy person because you can never believe what they say and I refuse to be THAT girl who acts like a lunatic.
I said all of this to get to this. A couple of weeks ago, Scott and I went and had lunch. Scott has been a bit persistent in that he thinks that he can show me a good time especially since the last couple of guys that I have dated have sucked. Now Scott, DOES know about my blog, so that came up. He actually reads it and he texts me his opinions. He recently told me that I should include some positive dating experiences on my blog, so I was going to post about our lunch "date" thing, because it was pretty positive and he said he didn't mind me writing about him. (I don't normally write about people that are very close to me because I don't want to hurt anyone). I told him I am going to type exactly how I feel, so don't get mad and he said ok I had my new post about him all typed up and everything, but something would let me post it. I decided to wait....
After I posted that story about the mailbox guy yesterday, Scott text me...
Scott: Ok babe, ya most recent post (which I thought would be bout me :/) u sound like a blonde headed white girl with no common sense. If he comments on ya body when ya'll first met, he is letting you know his aim. If then he texts you about basically getting drunk with him THE FIRST TIME HE TEXTS U then makes a remark about finding a way to make u sweat...LMAO this should have been a no brainer I'm disappointed in u. LMAO haven't u learned ANYTHING from me?? Haha still love you tho.
[Scott's mother is Caucasian, so his blond girl comment shouldn't be taken any sort of way].
Me: He wasn't trying to get drunk, people drink rum when they have a cold. I think they drink it in a hot toddy to get rid of the cold. He already had my number when he made the comment about my body. I already knew the answer, just wanted to get opinions to see if other people would react the way I did.
Scott: What are people saying? Lol cause you def didn't over react. Knowing you, you'll still talk to him lol.
[In my mind I was thinking...thanks for saying I have no standards]
Me: ...I still talk to you.
[Meaning he did me wrong and I am still friends with him so what makes him different? I don't actually talk to the mailbox guy anymore because that text rubbed me the wrong way...just in case you wanted to know].
He didn't say anything after I text that to him, but his texts frustrated me for a number of reasons. He basically called me stupid and said I have no standards. Also, how can he judge anyone when he tried to date me and someone I considered a friend and know about AND BE OK WITH THAT. He isn't any better than the guy in the last post. At least the guy in the last post was a stranger...he wasn't someone I knew and considered a friend.
To make things even worse, Scott really thinks that I can see myself with him. Why does he think he has been in the friend zone for so long? He needs to learn how to talk to women and not judge other people when it comes to dating because he has a sketchy past and a very checkered present as it relates to women.
So much for a positive post....
